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How to like a person you deplore

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You sometimes find that you can not tolerate a certain person .  Call it bad wavelength or bad chemistry you detest the very  presence of that person. It could be your  spouse’s close friend or his/her spouse, your  boss or colleague, a neighbour  or in laws etc .  If it is a person you can not avoid putting up with, you have to probe ways to be more compatible. You can give it a try and surely you will succeed. Every human being is amalgamation of good and bad qualities.

Things You'll Need

  1. Determination to make your attempt a succes
  2. Positive attitude
  3. Patience

Steps

1

Tell yourself several times, come what may you are going to like that person.  Prepare your mind to accept him/her.

2

Make a list of all his/her qualities that are deplorable, in the form of a column.

3

Give yourself time to observe the person in various situations. The time taken for this is in proportion to the number of times you meet the person.   Observe how he/she reacts in times of emergency, his/her behaviour with the boss or subordinates, with friends or neighbours his/her views on various subjects etc.

4

In the next column, make a note of all the positive impressions he/she has created in your mind, such as respect for elders, kindness to children, animals and  helpful nature, sense of humor, sincerity, boldness in facing an adverse situation capacity to get things done, which have been declared as impossible, etc.

5

After a few observations, you will find that the person has many good inherent qualities that are obscured by his/her rude talk or behavour.Gradually you will realize that the person you despise does not deserve such discrimination.  Your negative feelings subside and you will feel relaxed to talk to that person.

Caution

  • Never mention to any one that you detest that person. As the word would definitely reach the person and  it would hurt his/her feelings.
  • Do not tell any one that you are following a procedure to tolerate the person. It is your decision to do it.

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