How to Maintain Rapport with your Wife
A bride is given several instructions by the elders as to how she should behave with her in-laws, husband and other relatives. The in laws continue the training and a woman is always expected to make all the adjustments in life. She is supposed to keep her husband tied to her by being accommodative. Several articles appear in Women’s Magazines addressing the issue.Never do we find a groom being instructed as to how he has to treat his wife and her family. No men’s magazine carries write ups on “how to Keep your wife happy”. In the movie “Camelot” by Richard Harris – King Arthur remembers his Guru Merlin’s words –“ how to handle a woman, mark me well I’ll tell you sir, the way to handle a woman is to love her simply love her merely love her, love her, love her” how apt!You might have impressed your wife during courtship. Being punctual, escorting her to pictures, shopping etc., exhibiting the positive profile of you character etc. Once married the charm wanes and you take her for granted. The middle age, due to family responsibilities, financial worries etc. gives a passive attitude to women. She becomes less interested in the world around and loses interest in herself. In the same manner the man also probes the ways of earning more for the ever increasing needs and demands of the family and the relationship is relegated to the back seat.Men look for recreation outside to get over the tensions of mundane life. A wife has no such opportunity and feels neglected. It is the duty of the husband, to make her think of herself, realize how important she is to the family and keep her happy.
Things You'll Need
- love for your wife
- respect for her feelings
- interest to maintain harmony
Steps
Know about the likes and dislikes of your wife. Give preference to her choice.Take her to a movie or for a walk as togetherness would give her pleasure. get her a small surprise gift – even a string of flowers, a book or a sweet of her choice would do the trick. The feeling of being loved is enough to thrill her.
share your happiness with her. Any small thing that she has done to keep you happy should be appreciated. A small appreciation would go a long way. encourage her or praise her for her good qualities which would enhance her self confidence. Try to involve your wife into your life. Discuss your little worries or financial problem with her as this would make her more understanding with a feeling that she is important in your life. As a surprise, she may even suggest a solution to your problem.
always say sorry if you have hurt her feelings in any way unintentionally.You may be an extraordinarily sociable person with lots of ladies among your friends. Giving them extra attention or undue importance is to be avoided instead give more importance to your wife in their presence.
take her along while socializing and introduce her to your friends and colleagues with favorable comments and also give her company as she may feel out of place in the environment.
find out the common fields of interest like old music, books, sports, visiting temples,sight seeing or any other activity and find time to do it together.
Caution
- do not praise a colleague or friend’s wife before your wife and try to compare her with them. She may develop an antipathy towards that person and spoil your relationship with them.
- Though you try to keep her happy at times a wife is too avaricious asking for jewelry or new gadgets for the house or extra money in the bank. Try to explain to her and convince her that your financial status does not permit or you could provide every thing gradually.
- Praising other ladies before your wife is taboo. It will create more problems in the house. Giving undue importance however innocently to other ladies would ring bells of doom.
- do not criticize her cooking or compare unfavourably with either your relations or friends.
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