Indians are generally very conservative, especially when it comes to Marriage and relationship. Most of us spend years in school, striving hard to build a secure future. Many Indians sacrifice personal life for their career, running a never ending race. We are always in a hurry even when it comes to choosing a life partner. The boy will be thousands of miles away from home working for a foreign company, while parents look for a bride. All the decisions are made fast.... after looking at a couple of photos or web cam chats. This article is written from real experiences of some close friends of mine. If this offends you in any way, all I can say is, "the truth is bitter".
Photographs Lie – Photographs can always be manipulated by an expert to make karupamma look like kushboo. Also girls usually show only what they want you to see in a picture. Most pictures usually have just the face stuffed with makeup, taken from an angle which compliments her. In many cases what you see will do no justice to the real appearance. I have seen cases, where pictures are forged by attaching the face of the girl to some other girls or models body. Never!! Never!! Fall for a girl by her pictures.
First meeting is not enough – This is when you can know, whether the face you saw in the picture is really hers. However her body is a totally different story. Girls are very conscious about their appearance and features. She knows exactly, what she lacks and what you are looking for. She spends years researching her appearance and finding innovative ways to hide and camouflage. It all comes down to this moment. The life you earned after years of struggle and hardworking – she is going to get it all. All she has to do is make you fall for her in these 10 minutes. So she will make sure, she packages herself nicely, conveniently masquerading behind a Saree.
Saree hides what you don't want to see – One of the main reason, girls (particularly the obese ones) prefer Saree, is not because it's traditional. It's because, it is very convenient to hide all that extra pounds. An elegantly worn Saree can easily take your eyes of a tire in her mid riff or her huge thighs. You have to always anticipate the possibility that a likeliness to free flowing clothes may be a sign of overweight. There is no way you can see her real figure in a saree or salwar. You have to find ways to make her wear something other than a saree.
Western clothes helps – In casual western clothes like jean and T-shirts, you can see her real package. So If she comes in a Saree for the first meeting, let her know that, it may not be appropriate outside India and you would need her to be comfortable in wearing jeans-T shirts. If she becomes defensive or refuses to consider it, then you can be sure that, she is definitely concealing something. It's time to stop and look for someone else. Trust me, If she has a good figure, she will definitely make sure that you see it.
Fat camps are fatal – Many girls prepare for marriage by going to Fat camps to lose weight rapidly. It is never a good idea. After the marriage, she will gain all the pounds back, much faster than the time she spent to lose them. Many Indian girls (the fat ones) are characterized by large hips and very huge thighs. While a crash course or short tem starvation may make them look normal, they will go back to their original state soon after marriage.
So it always helps to check for the old photographs of her. Also since Obesity can be genetic, you can check her brothers, sisters and parents for any signs of future obesity.
Gather Intelligence – It's always in your best interest to find and talk to her old friends/classmates. Some one can be sympathetic to you and give you hints about her past.
Girls know Girls – A best person to judge a girl is another girl. So get some girls close to you like your sister or friend, when you go to meet her. They can easily see through the disguise and help you see the real her.
Marriage is a one time occurrence for many Indians. So don't rush or feel pressured by anyone. It is you who has to spend rest of your life with her.